In Need of a Parenting Handbook
Question: I’m a recently remarried mom of two (ages 3 and 7), and now have a stepson, age 11. Though I love all three of my kiddos, at the end of each day, I’m completely exhausted and feel like I’ve made every mistake possible when it comes to parenting. My husband is a wonderful man and father but we do have different parenting styles. I’m sort of joking about this (not really), but is there a parenting handbook out there that would help me just get through the day?
Laura Elpers Pierce, M.S., LMFT, RPT: First, you are not alone! Most parents can feel overwhelmed by the day-to-day challenges of family life, leaving you exhausted and searching for support. While there isn’t one specific “handbook” to suggest, there are certainly a number of great resources for parents who are looking for some guidance and direction when it comes to supporting, disciplining and having a healthy relationship with children (see below). Additionally, if you’re searching for something beyond a book and more specific support to your family, you may consider scheduling a parent consultation with a therapist. Find a therapist who specializes in parent support/education and you will have the opportunity to engage in conversations unique to your family and the challenges you struggle with the most. Creating a relationship with a therapist who is familiar with your family will benefit you for years to come as you navigate different turns in your family’s life.
Here are some resources you may find helpful:Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids (http://www.ahaparenting.com/peaceful-parent-happy-kids)The Secrets of Happy Families, Bruce FeilerHow to Talk so Kids will Listen and Listen so Kids will TalkWhole Brain Child and No Drama Discipline (Seigel and Bryson)https://www.additudemag.com/ (for children with ADHD)