As we slowly return to our “new normal,” you may find that you’re having a difficult time feeling positive about yourself and your life. While there is hope in the not too distant future (hang in there!), still—many of us have been stuck at home for months, travel has been restricted, and you may have forgotten what your “real” office looks like. Perhaps you’ve noticed that in recent weeks, your self-esteem has taken a bit of a hit.If that is the case, here are some tips that can be helpful in giving you a pick-me-up:
1) Pay attention to your self-talk: Are you being kind to yourself? Or, are you making extreme statements that very likely aren’t true? (for example, “I always screw up when trying new things,” or “I’ll never be good at cooking” or “My life right now is a complete disaster”). It’s not that you aren’t entitled to feeling bad during challenging times, but getting into a cycle of negative internal monologue will serve only to bring you further down.
2) Try replacing negative self-talk with something closer to the truth: “I may make mistakes, but I do my best to learn from them,” or “Things are really difficult right now, but I am very thankful for my family, friends, and a place to live,” or “Making messes in the kitchen is actually fun, and I give myself credit for trying something new.”
3) Instead of prolonging a sour mood by doing nothing, do something! Take a soothing bath, go for a walk, call a friend or even better, ask a neighbor who is struggling if they need some help. As Dodie Smith once said, “Noble deeds and hot baths are the best cures for depression.”
4) If you’re still struggling with self-esteem or depression, talk to a trusted friend, family member, or therapist about it. It’s pretty safe to say that most people are struggling right now, so reaching out to others is perhaps more important than ever.Insights wishes you a better, warmer, and more joyful March! Give yourself a high five for getting through February!