Suzanne Johndrow Feiler
Dallas, Texas Therapist Focusing on Women’s Issues, Infertility, Twenty-Somethings and Women in Transition.
I hold a Master's degree from Texas Women's University, as well as degrees in English and Classics, including an M.A. in Literature from Boston College.
My approach to therapy is a blend of Narrative Therapy (discovering through conversations hopeful, preferred, previously unrecognized possibilities and outcomes), and Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (challenging beliefs about actions in order to yield new results). I believe we are influenced by our family, community and childhood but are ultimately responsible for our choices and, further, that we possess the freedom to grow and change toward a desired way of being. Emotional wellness in difficult circumstances requires honest self-reflection, bravery, humor, creativity and optimism and these are qualities I encourage within the therapeutic process. Whether you are dealing with Infertility, Pregnancy and Pregnancy Loss, Postpartum Depression or you are going through a significant life change including Marriage, Divorce, Empty Nest, Menopause or the Aging Process, I can help you. I specialize in women’s counseling in Dallas and would be honored to be a part of your journey.
My background in literature informs my approach to therapy. I love listening to the stories of people’s lives, cultures and religions and looking with them for clues of knowledge and skills that might assist them in living in accordance with their preferred ways of being. I enjoy working with people in transition; stressed out brides-to-be, twenty-something’s shifting into adulthood, expectant mothers and women in all life stages, and the elderly. I have a special interest in those struggling with infertility, having struggled with that unique challenge myself.
I’ve worked as an advisor and mentor for athletes at Boston College, as an education consultant, an assistant to a CEO, and as the volunteer and outreach coordinator at Interfaith Housing Coalition, a non-profit serving homeless woman and their children -- all the while going to school and expanding my education.
I am deeply influenced by my close-knit family, a collection of garrulous, big-hearted, creative types (and one rocket scientist). My mother, at 80, remains an ardent gardener, activist, practitioner of Tai-chi and care-giver for those many years younger. I look to her as the gold standard of how to age with strength and grace.
When I'm not practicing psychotherapy, reining-in my work-a-holic husband, or chasing my *four* year old twins (!), I can usually be found worrying over the tomatoes in my little patch of a community garden/food-bank on the South side of the Trinity River. My current idea of perfect happiness is sleeping through the night and not having to get up until at least 7:30 am.
Here's a poem I love called Samurai Song, which I admire for its sense of Zen resourcefulness.
When I had no roof I made
Audacity my roof. When I had
No supper my eyes dined.
When I had no eyes I listened.
When I had no ears I thought.
When I had no thought I waited.
When I had no father I made
Care my father. When I had
No mother I embraced order.
When I had no friend I made
Quiet my friend. When I had no
Enemy I opposed my body.
When I had no temple I made
My voice my temple. I have
No priest, my tongue is my choir.
When I have no means fortune
Is my means. When I have
Nothing, death will be my fortune.
Need is my tactic, detachment
Is my strategy. When I had
No lover I courted my sleep.
Every day, I try to do something creative. This is my way of meditating, of clearing my mind of the details and concerns of the present moment and resting my attention on something imaginative, beautiful and full of potential. For the last few years, I have been writing a novel—gothic in tone-- set way back in the 12th century, in France, about an abandoned abbey in the Burgundian forest. Who knows if I will ever finish it, or if anyone will want to read it? For now, what I get from the process itself is pretty rewarding.
I am a Licensed Professional Counselor.
My rate is $130 for a 50-minute session.
A quote that I love:
One must have chaos in oneself in order to give birth to a dancing star. –Nietzsche